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Tips for Supporting Your Children Through Divorce

Divorce can be a tough journey for both parents and children alike. Here are some supportive tips to help you navigate this challenging time and ensure your child feels loved and secure:

Honesty and Explanation: Provide a simple but honest explanation for the divorce, reassuring your child it's not their fault. Aim to have this conversation when the whole family is together, if possible.

Open Communication: Encourage your child to share their feelings by being an attentive listener. Accept their emotions and offer reassurance that what they're feeling is normal.

Reassurance: Remind your child frequently that the divorce is not their fault and that you love them unconditionally.

Avoid Punishment for Immature Behavior: Children may exhibit regressive behaviors during stressful times. Offer extra comfort and support instead of punishing them.

Regular Visitation Schedule: Establish a predictable visitation schedule to provide stability and security for your child.

Maintain Regular Contact: Even if you live far away, stay in touch through phone calls or video chats to let your child know you care.

Minimize Changes: Try to minimize changes in your child's life, such as keeping them in the same school and maintaining consistent routines.

Consistent Rules and Routines: Work with your ex-spouse to establish consistent rules and routines across both households.

Avoid Using Your Child as a Messenger or Spy: Keep communication between parents direct and respectful, without involving your child.

Avoid Criticizing The Other Parent: Refrain from criticizing your ex-spouse in front of your child, as it can harm their relationship with both parents. 

Support Your Child's Relationship with the Other Parent: Encourage a positive relationship between your child and your ex-spouse.

Praise and Special Time: Acknowledge and praise your child's positive behavior, and spend quality one-on-one time with them.

Be Mindful of Introducing New Partners: Avoid introducing new partners to your children until the relationship is serious and stable.

Take Responsibility for Your Behavior: Focus on controlling your own behavior rather than trying to change your ex-spouse's actions.

Self-Care: Take care of yourself so you can better support your child. Seek support from friends, family, or support groups when needed.

Remember, navigating divorce is a process, and it's okay to seek professional help or additional support if needed. You're not alone in this journey. If you have any questions or need further assistance, feel free to reach out to us at

Lowenstein, L. (2006). Creative interventions for children of divorce. Champion Press.


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